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Three Months

 Another month has flown by. This time it was a bit of a rollercoaster for me. I have had some things going on in my life that have had me frazzled. When frazzled, I tend to unravel a bit and sometimes I unravel a lot.

Life had been lobbing lemons at me for awhile now. That isn’t news to anyone that knows me well. Sometimes instead of lobbing them, they load them into a pitching machine and aim it directly at my head. Last month, a particularly juicy lemon was sent speeding my way. I tried to catch it. I tried to block it. I tried getting out of the way. Unfortunately, it hit me square in the head and I have spent the last couple weeks reeling.

Mr. Perfect-for-me has been amazing through it all. He listens to me talk (almost non-stop) as I process everything. And more importantly, when I’m overwhelmed with emotions and can’t talk, he just holds me while I hurt. He doesn’t give me advice unless I ask for it. He doesn’t make useless suggestions like “just stop worrying.” He is patient and understanding. He is more than I could have ever hoped for in a partner.

Recently, we found ourselves having the same conversation on repeat. It was one I couldn’t get out of my head no matter what either of us said. I am a planner. The more I plan, the less I worry. This is something that has been a problem in my past relationships because some people abhor planning. Mr. Perfect-for-me is not big on planning but he doesn’t particularly hate it. There are some things that he feels are too far in the future to plan. But, for me, not planning, means that the things keep rolling around in my head feeling unresolved. So, we compromised. We planned a date/time to start the planning. 

Then he did something beyond amazing. He sent me a calendar invite so that I could be sure that it wouldn’t be forgotten. The weight that lifted off my shoulders was huge, and immediate. I didn’t know it was possible to love him more than I already did. But that gesture, had my heart overflowing with love. There are very few people in my life that embrace me so completely. He accepts me with all my idiosyncrasies and baggage. Then he goes out of his way to support me in ways I didn’t know were possible.

As I said last month, I can’t claim to know for sure that this love will endure and persevere, but I have faith that it will because it continues to grow and evolve. I believe that by continuing to be patient, kind and honest with each other, we will be able to love, honor and cherish one another for the rest of our days.


~Happy Third Monthiversary to My Love~


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